The Ways of a Fool
“Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,” Romans 1:22
So many times we hear of wives and husbands grieving over a bad relationship because their spouse turned out to be another person once they got married. They cry out and ask why did it happen? Is there a way a person can know how to get a life partner that will be a spouse who will stay the course? What should a person look for? In our journey to find the answers, let’s start with the Bible.
“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” 2 Timothy 3:16, 17
Years ago if a woman wanted to find a good husband she would visit the local church to find one or if a man was looking for a wife, he too would look within the church. When I was in Bible College you could tell who was looking for a spouse. The reason for this is because the institution of marriage comes from the scriptures and if one was trained in its principals, they should make a good life partner.
Today our young people are looking elsewhere and when they do find someone their character is far from those character traits given in the Bible. Three out of four marriages end in divorce mainly because people do not recognize bad character in a person and if they do see it, they consider it not important. The Bible gives many character traits, good and bad, and regardless of how someone tries to impress their potential life partner, their true character will always surface.
Since people are looking in mostly all the wrong places for a spouse, this discussion is to help us identify bad character. Two of the most important character traits to look for are:
• How is the relationship with their parents? This will tell you how they respond to authority.
• What are the types of people do they associate with; This will tell you what type of character they admire as well as put into practice.
The Scriptures identifies bad character with those the Bible call fools. The following are things to look out for:
“The fool hath said in his heart, there is no God. They are corrupt …” Psalms 14:1, 53:1
This one is important because if they have no belief in God, they will be more likely to have no allegiance to anything, especially a spouse.
Did you know that our founding fathers wrote many of the state constitutions to keep atheists from holding office, because they had poor character! They also reasoned that since an atheist has no belief or reverence for the next life, they are more likely to be less honorable and caring for those under them. An atheist was considered a traitor to his country.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7
… Fools hate knowledge Proverbs 1:22
Since marriage comes from the Bible, isn’t it obvious that we need to obey the principals in it if the marriage is to work? When we disagree with the principals of marriage in scripture, we are identifying with the character of a fool.
“He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool” Proverbs 28:26
A person who puts their trust in themselves and not in something higher than their own soul will usually hide things from his/her spouse or there will be things in their life that he/she will keep the other out of. Usually money is one of the first things this is visible.
“…it is abomination to fools to depart from evil” Proverbs 13:19
When a people or nation turns its back on God, within a generation what was considered right is questionable or wrong and what was wrong is one’s opinion. A fool hates authority and therefore hates God. It is only natural for a foolish person to see doing right as wrong.
“…a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother … a fool despiseth his father’s instruction …the father of a fool hath no joy ” Proverbs 10:5, 15:5, 17:21
The relationship a person has with their parents will be an indicator for a spouse, because if they cause grief and despise instruction from parents they will also do the same with a spouse, even if they don’t mean to.
• “It is as sport to a fool to do mischief…” Proverbs 10:23
This is someone who delights in hurting others as well as doing things that are wrong. Such as:
• It’s okay to go out and kick up your heels once in a while.
• It’s okay if both consent to it.
These are the characteristics of a fool, not only do they not see the hurt it does but they don’t see how it effects others.
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes…” Proverbs 12:15
When Israel did that which was right in everyman's eyes: it was just another way for Israel to do evil. A fool will not seek council, but will do what he feels is right regardless of the facts. In an example of morality, a fool would reject absolute right and wrong and say what is good for you may not be good for someone else. Where have we heard this before? The whole foundation of “Behavior Modification” is assuming that there is no God.
“A fool hath no delight in understanding,…” Proverbs 18:2
“Wisdom is too high for a fool:…”Proverbs 24:7
“Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words” Proverbs 23:9
These verses illustrate that not only can a foolish person not able to receive wisdom, but we are not to reason with them. Many young ladies marry such men thinking that they will change them only to be changed themselves. The scriptures are very clear about being yoked together with unbelievers; even uncommitted believers can bring disaster to a marriage.
“Thou fool, this night thy soul shall be required of thee…” Luke 12:16 - 20
In this parable Jesus tells of a rich man who had such a bountiful crop. He was considering tearing down his barns and building larger ones saying to himself that he should take it easy for he had plenty for many years. God referred to him as a fool and took his life because he was laying up treasure for himself and was not rich toward God since it was God’s blessings that gave him that harvest in the first place.
This is the characteristic of a covetous man: he desires riches; he gets them; he lays them up, not for the necessary uses to which they might be devoted, but for himself; to please himself, and to gratify his soul. Such a person is commonly called a miser.
…And their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools.” Romans 1:21,22
In Romans we find that God has revealed himself to all people so that when they knew Him:
1. They did not glorify him as God. One way this is being done is in the area of His creation being replaced with godless evolution. This alone is turning our nation away from the Creator. As long as this philosophy is the foundation of our colleges and universities our nation will be filled with fools.
2. Neither were they thankful When we look at life without God, we get an attitude that people or life owes us something and then we become ungrateful.
3. They became vain in their imaginations As a result they became fools and their heart was darkened. God then gave them over to a reprobate mind.
Until God’s people start getting back to the principles which are found in His word and build their lives on them, God will then be able to turn this nation around. If not we will feel his hand of judgment each time.
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” II Chronicles 7:14
The biggest act of any fool is not just saying there is no God but to those that even believe in God and neglect the greatest gift in history and that is to a clear relationship with God. How does one get that relationship? First realize that they cannot get to heaven on their own merits. The Bible says that “For all have sinned and come short (that means everybody can’t get to Heaven on their own) of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23)
Jesus Christ (who is the Son of the living God) came to earth and was born of a virgin woman (therefore he was not born of the curse of mankind) he lived a sinless life and died on a cross for all the sins in the world. Three days later, God the Father raised Him from the dead. He was seen of 500 witnesses and returned to heaven. God’s word says that if we believe these things and call upon the Lord, we will be saved. Romans 10:9 - 13