The Story of Dinah
“And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.” Genesis 34:1
We live in such a sad time when it comes to the purity of our young ladies. It has become common in our society to dishonor and rob women of their purity by as young as 12 years of age. It is no surprise that we hear about young ladies making wrong choices in relationships. You hear people saying, “Young people need to be with those of their own age. They need this time for themselves and to make mistakes, that way they can find out what they really believe.”
In my hometown we have a festival once a year that attracts people from all over the country. One day, when I was volunteering my time, I listened to people and how they were training their children or better yet, how they weren’t training their children. They were allowing them to have intimate relationships at such young ages. Our society says it normal. The saddest part of this is these were Christians-people of influence in our town. They are putting pressure on their children to learn the very principals that draw them away from the Lord.
What does God say about these things and how they will effect our children?
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.” Hosea 4:6
In the story of Jacob’s only daughter, Dinah, we see that she was about fifteen or sixteen years of age and was curious about the daughters of the land. The word “see” in the Hebrew is Ra ah, which implies to enjoy or to consider as a way of life, or to experience. Dinah was not satisfied with being at home at this point. This is probably due to the fact that Jacob had a problem of getting and maintaining the hearts of his children. In Titus 2:5, God’s plan for our young ladies is to “be keepers in the home.” Unfortunately, this is not accepted nor desired in our current society nor is it in the church.
Not only was Dinah looking at the daughters of the land and their lives, but it may be with some thoughts at the sons of the land, too. She was being looked at as well by them. Dinah’s intent was at first to consider or just see something different. Shechem, who was a prince in the land, had a problem with lust. He took her and laid with her and humbled (defiled) her, it would seem not so much by force but by surprise.
Unlike Ammon with his half-sister, Tamar, his soul was cleaved unto her. After he defiled Tamar he spoke kindly to her to console her and assure her that he would marry her. Dinah probably felt at this time ashamed about what had happened for she was taught that this was sin.
From this time until her brothers removed her from Shechem’s home, for she was held there probably by force. During this time period, as it is unfortunately with us today, it was common for young people to lose their purity at young ages such as Dinah. Remember this probably took place in one day!
As we see in scripture that when Jacob’s sons heard about this, they were first grieved and then they were very wroth. Shechem had wrought folly on their family and they saw this as nothing but wickedness. What we don’t see in scripture is that his father Hamor did not rebuke him for his behavior or even apologize for his son’s conduct to Jacob or his sons. He went along with it and used this situation to take control of Jacob and his fortune.
“Shall not their cattle and their substance and every beast of theirs be ours? Only let us consent unto them, and they will dwell with us.” Genesis 34:23
Not only does this cause a problem with Jacob, but it brings out the deceitfulness with Jacob’s sons especially Simeon and Levi. In Genesis 49:5 it states: “Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. “
What lessons can be learned from Dinah?
“My son give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.” Proverbs 23:26
Jacob did not have his daughter’s heart. In fact, if he had she would have shared her heart and her struggles with her father and he could have given her proper direction. Today, when young ladies reach these crucial years of their life, they need their fathers more than ever. Some of these needs include:
For emotional security: Knowing that her feelings are important to you and that you make her feel special
This is an important time in a girl’s life. When the father does not fulfill his daughter’s needs, she will like Dinah, seek comfort in someone else only they will want than can be recovered. Years ago I shared this with a young Christian girl who had already had several relationships. She could not comprehend such a relationship with her father, because her father had never tried to obtain her heart.
For one-on-one time:
Since my oldest daughter was five I have taken her on dates. This is the time I let her share her feelings with me and point out blind spots which she sees in my life. This is not the time to justify why you did or said something, but to be quick to hear and slow to speak and even quicker to ask forgiveness. When we justify our actions she will tend to not share her heart with us.
“There is no wisdom nor understanding nor counsel against the Lord.” Proverbs 21:30
As parents we need to seek God’s direction for our children. We need to know that God’s plan will not contradict His word. If it violates scripture, then it is wrong regardless of whom or how many people are doing it.
This would include:
1. A proper education:We are to provide an education whose foundation is Jesus Christ. When Harvard University was started, their founding statement was to remind their students that the foundation of all learning was Jesus Christ. This is not the message that students hear today in the public schools. References to God are forbidden. The Ten Commandments are not even allowed to be read in fear that they might read, meditate and even obey them. Therefore they were removed.
2. Parents need to provide a vision for their children consistent with scripture: As Christians, we need to make our decisions based on the word of God. When we do, we receive God’s blessing and when we do not follow His will, we receive hidden judgments, as well as, His chastisement.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8 & 9
3. Find a church that supports and preaches the scriptures as the only foundation: An unusually high number of churches are changing to fit the supposed needs of the people. Any pastor/elder that would support a path that contradicts the principals of Scripture is seriously under-mining his role as an example to the flock. In 1 Peter 5:3 it states that the flock will only be as strong as the leadership.
The choice is up to you!
You may be reading this and you have never answered the most important question in your life and that is …
How does anyone get to heaven?
First realize that they cannot get to heaven on their own merits. The Bible says that “For all have sinned and come short (that means everybody can’t get to Heaven on their own) of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23)
Jesus Christ (who is the Son of the living God) came to earth and was born of a virgin woman (therefore he was not born of the curse of mankind) he lived a sinless life and died on a cross for all the sins in the world. Three days later, God the Father raised Him from the dead. He was seen of 500 witnesses and returned to heaven. God’s word says that if we believe these things and call upon the Lord, we will be saved. Romans 10:9 - 13